Caregivers often have to form ad-hoc communities — or support circles — around them. We assemble these communities out of relatives, friends, prayer groups, health care and social workers. Everyone contributes what they can — and become a means of support and inspiration for us.
I’ve thought a lot about communities lately — and why some thrive and others wither away. The principles followed by our ancient traditions provide ideas about how our ancestors practiced the art of the community.
Anthropologist Angeles Arrien teaches how to use ancient cultural wisdom to enhance our community. One of her tenets is following The Way of the Healer or Caretaker. This way, she explains,
“is to pay attention to what has heart and meaning. Paying attention opens us to the human resources of love, gratitude, acknowledgment, and validation. We express the way of the Healer through our attitudes and actions that maintain personal health and support the welfare of our environment.”
Ah… sometimes just paying attention is the key. Just being there to listen and hold a hand of your communal brother or sister. Telling them, “I am here.” Validate that their role is important to the community as a whole, and express gratitude for their presence.
Resolution:
Tell a fellow caregiver “thank you!” and give a positive example of why they are so important to you and the community as a whole.
